Love Matters

Premature Ejaculation

 

My views on premature ejaculation and other male sex issues such as impotence, loss of erectile abilities and sexual feelings; and age factors, have come from the observations and experiences I’ve had with hundreds of male clients at several clinics which I have operated over the years.

 

Before moving on to specific issues it could be useful to answer the question, “What is male sexual health?” Essentially, I see this as being in condition to perform as a man would wish, considering his age and normal expectations. An important part of male health is the matter of control – being in control of your well being and performance. In a man who is between 18 and 30 years, I see good sexual health as being able to control oneself with his partner to the point that the partner is satisfied and that lovemaking does not have to end prematurely.

 

Use of Chi

 

I utilize what I call Chi Energy Power™ which includes ancient Chinese principles developed to accomplish this important control and teach these to my clients.

For example, in one case, where a client had wanted to overcome premature ejaculation, I suggested that he could talk a little during sex to calm the flow of the mind, and to not concentrate wholly on his own body and penis. This would help him delay his climax because too much focus on the sexual organs can be over-stimulating and result in premature ejaculation.

 

Another way of de-focusing is through taking a break, maybe stopping to have a drink of water. Thus his over-revving engine will have a chance to slow down.

 

Other ways to delay

 

Another way to delay ejaculation is to simply stop everything, withdraw from the vagina for a moment, and then continue; thrusting back in. A further option might be to change the sexual position.

 

It isn’t always necessary to go into a long explanation with your partner about why you are making a change, just do it and it may be seen as part of the natural flow of the sex act. In the end if it is effective in extending the time, and pleases both parties, who is going to question it?

 

Effect of masturbation

 

From what I have observed with my clients, a major cause of premature ejaculation has often come from too much quick masturbation. Men who have trained their sexual system to have a quick bit of fun almost always end up having this habit transferred to sexual intercourse. Too often, it seems, this is the result of the way masturbation is treated in many households where children are taught that masturbation is wrong or dirty. And so, when they do it as teenagers, they masturbate in secret as quickly as possible so no one sees they are having their pleasure before they get caught. In males, this is one of the biggest causes of premature ejaculation.

 

 

 

I’ve also seen that a lot of premature ejaculation is perpetuated because there is no one to tell men what to do or how to do it, and they simply do not know how to truly relax sexually.

 

I talk with men about how to make their love-making last longer. When men come to me they are suffering, they are frustrated, and they may have started to lose confidence in their sex life. Often, after their partners have complained, they start to feel lost, and are even scared of being close to a woman. Any further communication from their partner over the issue may only aggravate to problem. And then, whether they are with their sexual partner or reading about it in a book, they come to realize they cannot correct the problem by themselves.

 

Knowing how to use Sexual Energy

 

One of my Chi Energy Power™ principles that I use is based on the fact that about ninety per cent of the loss of sexual energy and premature ejaculation is caused by the nerves and the bloodstream being blocked by negative energy. Many people do not know how to care for their genital area, how to replace sperm after ejaculation, and how to allow the sexual organs to rest. Too many people use their body's sexual energy indiscriminately until it runs out.

 

Case Example

 

John was a client who came to me with premature ejaculation, allergies, and problems with his nerves. He had a very big body, and suffered from a chronic shortness of breath. I started by giving him a thorough back massage. Then I asked him to roll over and noticed that his nose and sinus passages were quite plugged. This was caused by breathing mostly through his nose.

 

I asked him to open his mouth and put his tongue behind his upper teeth. This tongue method acts as an energy connection between the mind and the penis. Energy flows from the head to the body via the tongue. I taught him to try breathing through his mouth, keeping his tongue behind the upper teeth when he had sex.

 

This would reinforce proper breathing and provide needed oxygen for sex. I demonstrated how to make a big inhalation until the lungs were full, followed by a slow exhalation. I also instructed him on how to breathe properly during sex, and it worked! Instead of ejaculating quickly in five minutes or less, he was able to hold off for twenty minutes or more.

 

What I’ve written here is a very brief sample of hundreds of cases I’ve dealt with over the years. I’ve written more extensively about this problem in my second book East Meets West, Chinese Chi Healing for Western Sexual Disorders. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

See the following links for other, more specific discussions of andrology, or male sex issues, such as prostate milking, balanitis, dapoxetine, retrograde ejaculation, overcoming impotence, andropause, male enhancement pills, herbal Viagra alternatives, and increasing sperm count.

 

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